So, if asked. What do u miss about your EX? Hmmm! Let me see… Her beauty, her charm, her ability to make me smile, and not forgetting she was pretty amazing in…. Wait a minute, who am I kidding I remember NOTHING! That is how it’s supposed to be. Ever thought of the word EX. Let us give it a though, what’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think of the word EX. And you better not be thinking of “EXE” The chapatti cooking flour, if you do then you are lost you will keep going back.
EX should mean cross, not the cross of Jesus Christ, no blasphemy intended, but cross as in the cross put on those Huruma buildings that were to be brought down, demolished, unfit for human habitation. They were a death sentence, people had to vacate, they actually did. And they were not to look back. Am sure they will thank God afterwards for having their eyes opened, they are probably in better houses by now. Ok I think that’s enough, hopefully you’ve gotten the picture.
So how do you make sure that your EX is exactly that, a matter of the past. A deleted partition in your long term memory, never to be recovered. Its starts right before you make that decision to walk away. Make sure that decision isn’t abrupt and driven by emotions of anger or bad advice. Such decisions have a tendency of being foolish and bring regrets in future. So before you choose to chase them out of your life or walk away depending on which you prefer. Make sure you won’t end up needing them in the future. Don’t be afraid to swallow your pride willingly and with that any pain caused. It might save you from embarrassment and forcefully having to do so in future, driven by feelings you thought you were over and done with. So before you call it quit make sure you fully convince your heart and mind there is nothing else you could have done. And don’t just sit and convince yourself, go ahead and try to do something other than walk out. Also be sure to ask for advice from close friends who have your interest and well-being at heart. Make sure they are friends who are themselves dating. Don’t choose football spectators and fans who know how to play the ball better than the players and coaches. If you know what I mean.
After you have finally made your decision that you need to put an “X” before the girlfriend or boyfriend it is very important to get rid of all attachments you had with your newly elected EX. If there was this favorite food joint the both of you used to go and there are chances that you might bump into each other, then don’t go. How are you supposed to forget each other if you keep seeing one another?
If you still hold on to that gift she or he gave you, or have that chain you exchanged as you rehearsed the vows you had promised to say before the alter in future, around your neck. Then that’s a hanging rope round your neck. Get rid of it. Generally, the point is to get rid of any kind of thing whether breathing or not that reminds you of him or her.
The other important thing is to accept and convince yourself that it’s not going to be easy. You never forget your Ex in a week or month some even take years. If you break up today and a month later you don’t even remember their name, then that wasn’t a relationship. Looks more of a business deal gone wrong.
So don’t hate yourself if you still see her face in the street as you walk, see him in your dreams when you sleep or fell her sent under the sheets at night it will take some time. It rarely means you made a mistake, nor does it mean you’ve left you MR. Right. But eventually you will get rid of them, just like I did.
