There is no love like a mother’s love. I have confidence in that
we are all conversant with this one. But on a first thought, you would think
your mother is the most irritating woman you will ever meet.
I remember someone telling me that if you think hard enough
and be ‘optimistic’ enough, if at all that’s the right word for it, you will
notice that the woman you end up marrying will somewhat be comparable in personality
to your mother. I didn’t take this seriously.
“You’ve to be kidding me,” I thought. At 18 I was thinking
of how fast I could get liberated off my mother, and yet someone was trying to
get this crazy impression that I might be stuck with someone who behaves
exactly like my mother for the rest of my life?
“God forbid” I was confident I wouldn’t be taking my words
back any time soon.
It’s surprising how much very much can change in so little
time. Now here I am, humbled like a dog in front of his master. As I say “I want
a girl to love me like my mother”
And don’t get me wrong, am not crazy, neither did I lack
something to write about, nor did at gun point my mum force me to write and
post this article. May be I should post a disclaimer it’s out of free will and self-meditation that am posting this post …bla
bla bla ….
Come to think of it, every family minded guy has his “wife
material” qualities. Now, if u take these qualities and match them against
those of your mum most of them will match.
Let me try and be a psychic... you want a woman who can cook,
after all ‘the way to man’s heart is through his stomach’, your mom will
probably tell you. You want her to understand you no matter what, she is
supposed to defend you even when she knows you are on the wrong. Be worried for
you even when you not worried for yourself. Forgive you even when you are more
than sure yourself that you don’t deserve to be forgiven. She should treat you
like a baby. She should do your dirty laundry, no problem. Be there when you
are from work to welcome you. Make you bed…. Am starting to sound like am a
baby and am describing my own mother, and those are just but the basic staff.
If we fight hard enough past our manly foolish ego, we will
agree that our mums are the picture-perfect examples of how our wives ought to
be. If you asked a philosopher as to why this is, most will be heard to go down
the road of “we all grow up having our mothers close to us and we have them do
the most basic things in life for us, we grow up with them as a perfect example
of how women should be….”
When talking about this issue a lot can be brought up for
discussion. Some will agree with me; some won’t see the point. We live a
liberal world, but am telling you unless your mum is the kind of bad mums we
see in NIGERIAN MOVIES if she doesn’t
like a girl, it means they aren’t compatible and you have yourself a problem. But
as I said I stand corrected.
